| Introduction: So You Wanna Be a Momma! |
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Thinking It Over and Making a Plan |
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The Long and Winding Road Ahead |
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Getting Started...Now the Fun Really Begins! |
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On Actually Trying to Get Pregnant |
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What Happens During Conception |
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Can You Plan for a Boy or Girl? |
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Health Tests You Will Need |
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Sperm: The Necessary Ingredient |
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Known Versus Unknown Donor: The Big Decision |
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Surviving the Roller Coaster: Ten Tips to Keep You Sane |
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Take Care of Yourself First |
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Understand That It's Probably Going to Take a While |
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Realize That Your Life Will Now Be Divided into Two-Week Cycles |
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Keep Believing It Could Happen Any Time |
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Find Support Wherever You Can |
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Don't Hang out with Nonsupportive People |
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Expect Your Body to Freak Out, But Try not to Obsess So Much That You Really Flip |
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Take Time out When You Need It |
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Start Indulging in Parenting Books and Magazines |
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Reevaluate Your Process as Necessary |
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What If You Can't Get Pregnant? |
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Alternative Treatments for Infertility |
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Taking It One Step Further |
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Coming to the Fork in the Road |
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So You're Finally Pregnant! Welcome to the World of Eating, Sleeping, and Puking! |
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Is It Pregnancy---Or Just PMS? |
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You Know...But Should You Tell? |
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Changes in the First Trimester |
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Taking Care of Yourself in the First Trimester |
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Girlfriends...the Emotional and Legal Nitty-Gritty |
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You and Your Health Care Provider |
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Medical Tests You Will Probably Have Now |
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You're Well into it Now! Your Second Trimester |
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Physical Changes in the Second Trimester |
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Taking Care of Yourself in the Second Trimester |
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Medical Tests You Can Expect Now |
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What Your Partner May be Going Through |
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If Your Life Circumstances Change |
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Sex and Self-Esteem During Pregnancy |
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Questions About Sex During Pregnancy |
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Into the Home Stretch: The Last Trimester |
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Taking Care of Yourself in the Third Trimester |
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This Woman Deserves a Party |
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Surviving Those Last Few Weeks |
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Dealing with Complications |
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Partners Become Parents, Too |
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What Is This Creature, Anyway? |
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Your Body, the Birth Battleground |
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The Milk Bar's Always Open |
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The Beauty---and the Difficulty---of Becoming a Family |
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Lesbian-Friendly Sperm Banks, Health Clinics, and Fertility Resources |
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| Appendix |
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Sample Donor-Recipient Agreement on Donor Insemination |
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Basal Body Temperature Chart |
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| Index |
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