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| Introduction |
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SECTION 1 Creating a Personal Identity |
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What you believe about yourself defines who you are |
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Updating your belief system is how you learn and requires paradigm-shifting |
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Conscious awareness is the key to successful lifestyle creation |
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Your value system guides you toward success or failure |
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You are responsible for your standards |
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You protect your ``self'' by setting and maintaining strong boundaries |
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54 | (8) |
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You are responsible for meeting your needs |
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62 | (5) |
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Appreciate who you are and your lifestyle |
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67 | (5) |
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Accurately identify your personal talents |
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72 | (9) |
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76 | (5) |
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SECTION 2 Developing Spirituality and Life Purpose |
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Realize and appreciate your spiritual nature |
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Your spiritual life is more important than your mental, emotional, or physical life |
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90 | (11) |
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You and your clients are already on spiritual paths |
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When you discover your life's purpose, living becomes meaningful |
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109 | (14) |
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118 | (5) |
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SECTION 3 Enhancing Communication Skills |
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When you know and use the principles of communication, you increase the effectiveness of your ability to communicate |
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The art of listening is a vital communication skill and is fundamental to all interpersonal relationships |
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134 | (13) |
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Successful communication hinges on how well others understand what you are saying |
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147 | (5) |
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Feedback is a way of giving and receiving communication that assists and enhances your relationships |
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152 | (4) |
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Competition is primitive; cooperation is better; collaboration is best; and a synergistic relationship is superior |
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156 | (6) |
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Authentic communication in situations involving conflict is a critical relationship skill necessary for growth and change |
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162 | (13) |
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171 | (4) |
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SECTION 4 Living Life with Integrity |
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Taking responsibility for all of your actions empowers you, strengthens your autonomy, and lets you consciously create your future |
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175 | (5) |
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Honesty is a much greater achievement than always telling the truth. Honesty means you are authentic in everything you think, say, and do |
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180 | (6) |
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Anger is a powerful, useful, and natural emotion. Learn how to harness and manage it, and you increase your personal power |
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186 | (6) |
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Being assertive is effective and constructive. Being aggressive is ineffective and destructive |
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192 | (7) |
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Empathy is the most powerful and effective element in interpersonal relationships |
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199 | (6) |
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Sharing is the best way to create effective relationships |
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205 | (5) |
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Stress does not exist outside of you. You are in charge of your stress level and can learn to manage it to your advantage |
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210 | (17) |
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221 | (6) |
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SECTION 5 Achieving Potential |
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Success is a way of thinking, a consciousness. Achieving success is a subjective perception |
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Without a vision of your desired future, you allow circumstances to create it for you instead of you creating it yourself |
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232 | (4) |
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Identifying a great number of personal goals and then writing them out is critical to your success in life |
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236 | (7) |
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Strategizing is a valuable skill essential to reaching your goals |
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243 | (5) |
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The attitude you adopt determines whether you are successful in creating a lifestyle you enjoy |
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248 | (8) |
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Your level of commitment is absolutely critical to your long-term success and achievement |
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256 | (5) |
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A life that is balanced both internally and externally is crucial to creating a satisfying life |
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261 | (9) |
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Living in the present moment is important |
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270 | (4) |
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You are always a leader for someone, especially for yourself. Lead your own chosen life |
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274 | (10) |
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To become an effective leader, you must first become a good follower and teammate |
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284 | (11) |
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289 | (6) |
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SECTION 6 Learning Cognitive Skills |
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Your thinking habits are the most powerful tools you have for creating anything you genuinely desire |
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295 | (13) |
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Everyone has the ability to develop creative thinking skills |
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308 | (7) |
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Paradoxical thinking is crucial to the full understanding of your world |
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315 | (4) |
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Identifying your learning style, coupled with reinforcement, facilitates all learning |
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319 | (12) |
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327 | (4) |
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SECTION 7 Creating High-Quality Relationships |
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Succeeding at any endeavor is dependent on the nature and quality of your relationships |
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331 | (8) |
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Accurately assessing the nature and quality of a current relationship is crucial to changing it |
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339 | (14) |
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The nature and quality of all human relationships are determined by the nature and quality of the character of those involved |
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353 | (6) |
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Creating genuine relationships is critical to building a successful life |
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359 | (6) |
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Friendships are a special kind of interpersonal relationship that you must consciously create |
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365 | (8) |
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The highest-quality interpersonal relationships are based on love |
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373 | (8) |
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Romance and taking responsibility for your sexual life enriches the primary relationship of couples |
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381 | (8) |
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Resolving conflict in relationships requires a balance of power |
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389 | (10) |
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You can consciously create the kind of relationship you want with family members |
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399 | (12) |
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Appreciating differences and valuing diversity enriches your relationships and your life, and broadens your humanity |
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411 | (10) |
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SECTION 8 Understanding the Past to Create a Desired Future |
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Your personal history is a valuable resource for creating your desired future |
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421 | (5) |
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You can choose to leave a personal legacy that makes a positive difference |
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426 | (9) |
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432 | (3) |
| Afterword |
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435 | (2) |
| References |
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437 | (2) |
| Index |
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